A lot of kids start their education without wanting to part with their parents. Then, they get used to being at school for a few hours and spending time with their peers. The older they become, the less you see them at home.
The latter is a natural part of growing up, but many parents seem to find it challenging to accept. That is especially true if the children hit puberty and turn into teenagers. They start having crushes, going on dates, and joining different cliques, and they no longer have time for their dear ol’ parents.
Now, our lives are no longer as fast-paced as before due to the coronavirus outbreak. Schools and offices have shut down, and everyone is supposed to either study or work from home. Teenagers and senior citizens must avoid going out, too, since their immunity may not be able to handle the virus.
I fully agree that this pandemic is devastating; however, no one can blame a parent like me if I see this as an opportunity to bond with my teenage kids. Still, I realize soon enough that they are not fond of staying at home as much as they used to be. So, I wonder, “How can I keep my teenagers from sneaking out?”
The first thing that you should avoid or lessen is nagging your teens. Say, they may like to sleep in these days, and you try to wake them up early as if they still need to go to school. Or, they may have barely touched the game console, but you are already telling them to stop playing.
Any son or daughter who gets nagged often may risk catching the infectious disease instead of putting up with all the nagging. After all, when your kids are outside, they won’t hear your voice for some time, so they get peace of mind. You need to think of other ways to make them do your bidding without hating you.
Give Age-Appropriate Tasks
People admire teenagers who look after their young siblings while their parents are working. They say, “Oh, you are such a responsible kid. I wish my son or daughter is like you.” The mom and dad also receive praise for raising them in that manner.
Most of these individuals do not see that the teenagers may not have taken on this responsibility on their own. Often, the parents leave them no choice, even though they wish to have fun with friends and not become their siblings’ babysitter. When these teens get fed up, therefore, they end up sneaking out and breaking the rules.
The key here is to give age-appropriate tasks to your teenage children. Being big and strong is not an excuse to make them look after a bunch of youngsters or renovate the bathroom. If they can help you cook or do the laundry, that should be more than enough.
Why do you think your kids long for their friends’ company? The reason is that those are the people with whom they can share their silliest jokes or deepest secrets—you know, the things they hide from parents like you. The only way to make them open up to you is by becoming friendly like their peers.
You may start by playing the games they love or reading the books they cannot drop. It also helps to joke with them or find activities that you both enjoy. Nevertheless, the fastest solution is relaying your worries to your teenagers since hearing you share your thoughts may coax them to do the same.
It is our duty as parents to keep our kids safe, especially when there is a global pandemic. Despite that, you should do it without pressuring them to do this or that. Otherwise, they may always act up around you, which I’m sure you don’t want to happen.