We don’t want to admit it. As parents, when our children commit grave errors and regretful mistakes in life, it’s like we’ve done it ourselves. It could be that we focused more on our work, earning cash, and ignored our teenagers for far too long. We love them so much, but with life being very challenging and difficult, most of us don’t have the luxury to look after them 24/7. It is heart-breaking, indeed.
With this said, we as parents need to find ways on how to help our teenage children move back to the right path. Do you honestly believe that your son or daughter is a lost cause? No, absolutely not! They just need to feel our love again, and they have to be guided from now on. As a parent, it is your responsibility most especially if your teenage son or daughter is still a minor.
One way of helping your child behave accordingly, and learn of the right moves and decisions in life is through Teenage Counseling. “Child counseling is a type of therapy that focuses on young children, teens, and adolescents with one or more mental illnesses. It also provides aid to youths, who have experienced trauma, and/or who are experiencing a dysfunctional or stressful home environment,” explains Dr. R. Y. Langham, Ph.D.
What Is Teenage Counseling?
Teenage Counseling is a form of therapy program geared towards the mental healing of teenagers, in general. An expert on the treatment program, more like a certified mental health counselor or therapist for minors, will be the one designing the said program according to the teenager’s need. It can last for a few months and some extreme cases, the program can extend for years. The whole point is for the teenager to outgrow his teenage angst and rebellious vibe to become a better and well-rounded young person.
Who Needs Teenage Counseling?
“When a child is diagnosed with mental illness, it can overwhelm the family. On the one hand, many parents feel that they finally have answers for behaviors that are confusing and often scary,” says Katie Hurley, LCSW. Teenagers who are troubled need therapy immediately. Those who are not delinquents, but are experiencing mental health breakdowns due to stress, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, paranoia, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and many other mental health issues, also require the assistance of a teenage psychological health counselor or therapist. Basically, teenagers who have mental health concerns, behavioral problems, and other personal baggage, need adolescent counseling facilitated by an expert.
What Can You Expect From Teenage Counseling?
This bit is for the information of parents whose teenage child will undergo the counseling program. Most adolescent counseling treatment programs will make this move – parents are not allowed within the “safe room” after the first session is done. A safe room is where the counseling takes place. It is the office of the mental health counselor.
Also, the mental health counselor cannot disclose any information communicated by the teenager during the session. It will violate the counselor-client confidentiality clause. I know, it’s appalling, but that’s the law. As for necessary information on the meetings like the diagnosis of the mental health counselor, the progress of the teenager in therapy, and future referrals if applicable are open for parents to know.
Most parents will not see this as something possible to do, but a teenager will never open up his or her feelings or emotions if the parents are privy to what is going on in per detail in therapy sessions. It is likely that the mother or father will want the teenager to answer and provide the reasons why they feel in such a way.
For example – Why did you tell the counselor that mom and I are always fighting and that it sickens? We’re not always fighting, and it’s not the counselor’s business to know.
See? With that kind of interaction, the teenager won’t release his or her real feelings. When the emotions are bottled up, there is no way for the teenager to heal. For your son or daughter to recover from his or her mental health concerns, he or she should be able to let out the things bothering him or her. The mental health counselor will then help your teenager validate these feelings, and also assist him or her to process it healthily then, let it go. That’s how it goes, generally speaking.
In The End, It’s All About Love
It’s not easy to impose to your teenager that he or she needs Teenage Counseling. “During adolescence, teens experience rapid physical, mental, intellectual, emotional, and social developmental changes. In addition, teens are often faced with a brand-new set of responsibilities and privileges, causing them to swing back and forth between dependence and independence.” Bella Stitt, LMFT said. The only way you can tell him or her that you want it done is by appealing to his or her soft side – I am worried about you, and I love you very much. Maybe we can do this Teenage Counseling thing for you once a week and also a Family Therapy session which will include me, dad, and your sisters? I have so much to tell you because you are my child and my life. I hope it’s not too late to repair our relationship.
If this approach is not working, then, let’s practice tough love.